tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-68977236919659477892024-03-05T21:40:03.491-08:00TheoreticalGrrrlThe Grrrl Next Doortheoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-46083112012522204982016-04-14T14:09:00.000-07:002016-04-14T17:53:46.255-07:00On 'Girls' the show - Or why this show is the most pathetic boring tripe that ony exists due to Lena Dunhams wealthy connections.<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Ok, I'm not much of a "blogger" I admit. I've not kept up with this blog, although I seem to get some page views for some really old posts.<br />
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I dusted off the blog to vent on the bizarre critical success of the crap of a show known as "Girls". <br />
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I gave it a chance, I really did. I watched a free HBO marathon to see what all the buzz was about. I tortured myself through four episodes. I thought maybe the first episode I watched wasn't representative, so I kept going. <br />
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Why would anyone do that to themselves? I'm no masochist, but I try to be open-minded. I really gave it a chance. But only a masochist would continue to watch past those four god-awful episodes.<br />
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I'm a woman, I'm white, I'm not rich or middle class. So I'm not sure if I'm the demographic. But I get the impression this is a show supposedly for the Everywoman.<br />
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Girls has been criticized for being focused on white wealthy women. Which isn't necessarily bad in itself in some contexts, it's just the fact that it's set in New York City and for some reason black and other minorities seem to not exist. Anyone who's been to New York, outside of Manhattan I guess, knows this is really bizarre. <br />
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I actually started wondering while watching if this show was a drama. Because it genuinely lacked any humor, jokes, any funny situations. It never elicited a laugh or a chuckle or even mild amusement. It was tedious, boring, with terrible writing. <br />
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Lena Dunham seems to have figured out that she only has to pay lip-service to feminism by flashing her butt crack or other body parts at the camera, have explicit sex, and occasionally throw in a tepid Feminism 101 speech out of nowhere to have everyone falling all over her for her "bravery" and pro-woman cred.<br />
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Yeah she doesn't have a traditionally aesthetically pleasing body. So what. You can't build a whole show around that. It may seem brave for any other woman, but for the self-absorbed, entitled, asshole no talent that is Hannah/Lena Dunham (she's basically playing herself) it's most likely the result of being told her whole life her shit doesn't stink and the universe revolves around her.<br />
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Lena in her personal life, as described in her memoir, clearly has issues with not respecting other's boundaries She has little respect for her own sister and her privacy, from bribing her for kisses, taking pleasure in upsetting her in order to feel she can't function without her big sister, her delight in telling her sister bad news, to a controversial telling of Lena mysteriously finding a bunch of stones in her sister's vagina -- we are supposed to believe a one-year-old had the sophistication to understand she had a canal up inside her body and the dexterity to stuff stones into her own vagina as a "practical joke", and for some reason was expecting someone to look in her vagina to find this, in Lena's words, "practical joke."<br />
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Also Lena told her parents her sister was gay before Grace Dunham was ready to come out.<br />
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Such a lovely individual.<br />
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But we're supposed to think all this is edgy and cool, and that dislike for her character on Girls not to mention her personal shittyness is proof she "challenges" us. <br />
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Get real.<br />
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There have been characters in comedy who have been written as unlikeable and self-absorbed, but the difference is they were actually funny and had comic timing, and a well-written script.<br />
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Lena Dunham is none of these. She is an annoying ass in her public and private life. Girls isn't innovative, entertaining or even mildly funny. It's most like the result of the daughter of wealthy, hipster artists cashing in on her connections.<br />
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theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-92107185285458701552015-12-01T16:10:00.001-08:002015-12-01T16:10:47.916-08:00Courtney Love-Tom Grant phone calls April 1994 Part 2/2 (The Cobain Case...<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="344" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8ulsSM_SCKE" width="459"></iframe><br />theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-25011434511582437292015-12-01T00:08:00.002-08:002015-12-01T00:10:54.232-08:00He Claims He Was Leaving Me<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: #660000; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;"> "Because it wasn't really nice... It talked about getting a <strong>divorce</strong>," Courtney replied</span></span></span></span></span><span style="font-family: "arial";"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial";">"I won't tell him I was never in the hospital." - Courtney went to the hospital with a bogus failed suicide attempt while Kurt was "missing". </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial";">"It's gonna appear as if I attempted suicide."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial";">"The people I had do this, (plant the phony story), I paid." - CL</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial";">Kurt Cobain was attempting to leave Courtney Love. She was having none of that. They had a pre-nup which left her with a much smaller amount of money. Kurt was worth multi-millions to her dead.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "arial";"><br />It's a common crime. It's not a wild "conspiracy" theory. It was spousal murder. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial";">Watch Soaked In Bleach on Netfilx for more information.</span></div>
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theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-3494901927707204042014-06-14T12:15:00.000-07:002015-11-29T19:46:51.287-08:00Double Standards, Ophelia Benson Style - Part II<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Ophelia Benson goes digging through my old comments on her blog to find something she can use to belittle and discredit me. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">After she tells me to "go away,"</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">s</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">he tells her readers that I sort of but not exactly sock-puppeted because I used to post under a couple of different 'nyms years before FTB required you log in and stick to one. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">I've stuck to the same one for a few years now, but she doesn't mention that. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">I</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">mplying that I'm a dishonest person, again. Even though </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">I t</span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">old</i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> people that I changed it.</span><i style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> </i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">People change their 'nyms on the Freethought blog network all the time. When FB network changed to require registration and log in, they wouldn't let me use the 'nym I was using, I kept getting a message saying that that person already posts here and you may be an impostor. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">That happened to a lot of people besides me. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">So I changed it to my email ID to register and log in, no big deal. At least I didn't think it was a big deal, or that someone would actually try to use that against me in the future.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;">Ophelia insinuates that I'm a hypocrite because of this past comment complaining about a Yahoo group that had <u>zero</u> moderating (since I now complained about my disappearing comments, which is<i> only moderating)</i>. She's "amused" at the "relevancy." Right Ophelia. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;">She not only tone-trolls me, she flat out says I'm a troll.</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 28px;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;">I have been posting at B&W for a while, you'd think that would earn me</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;"> </span><i style="color: #2c2b2b; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;">some</i><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18px; text-align: justify;">good faith? You'd be wrong. </span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I’m going back through theoreticalgrrrl’s previous comments, which were made under a few different names (but the same email address, so not exactly sock-puppeting) and I found one of amusing relevance:</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I used to belong to a Yahoo group and the moderator was completely anti-moderating in the name of free speech. It was a complete mess, mostly dominated by a paranoid guy who thought the government was using his microwave to control his thoughts. No one could have a normal conversation or debate about anything. It was draining and pointless. But no one could convince the moderator to do something about the trolls, he was so convinced it was some sacred duty to let people be free to spew whatever nonsense they wanted and constantly derail discussions.</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">N</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">ot exactly the "gotcha!" she portrays.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">What was her purpose in going through years of my old comments? What was her goal? Looking for a "gotcha!" to justify treating me like a troll and not someone who comments in good faith. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">To find something she can spin as proof I deserved what I got, that it was perfectly righteous for her to treat me like a troll or </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">a 'lying liar'. And that was the best that she could come up with. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"><br />Was she trying be hurtful? Well, then</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> m</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;">ission</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; line-height: 18.2px;"> accomplished, Ophelia. You win. I feel blindsided by the whole experience. I was a regular reader for years of Butterflies and Wheels, up until a few days ago when this happened. I still don't know why I was ripped into the way I was. People with strong opinions who speak their mind seemed to be welcomed on Butterflies and Wheels, colorful language is frequently used like the f-word, the shit word, the damn word, and others. Attacking me like that seems so arbitrary, I am still am pretty shocked by it. I didn't make any personal attacks, just focused on the word and why I thought the idea that it was a slur was a silly one. I thought the idea was ridiculous, not the person saying it. But I got called intellectually dishonest, accused of using "verbal sleight of hand", which I said was unfair.</span><br />
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<span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">But fine. I can look up things she said</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">in the past </span><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">online, right? </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Except I will be relyin</span><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">g on facts. </span><span style="background-color: transparent; font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Or do we have yet another double standard for Ophelia and the rest of the world? </span></div>
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br />Ophelia selectively deleting comments where I defend myself against accusations of lying? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Ophelia says it was OK to do to me because I sounded "enraged" in my posts. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">The mental state she speculates I was in when I typed the comments totally justifies deletion. Forget again the blatant tone trolling, she also has a completely different standard for herself. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: large;">Because it is <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">positively "immoral" </span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"><i>when it happens to her</i>:</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">"Ordinarily, yes, of course they can reject posts if they want to. </span> <b style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">But posts rebutting a false charge of lying? No. That’s immoral."-</b> <b style="background-color: white; color: #333333;"> </b><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333;">Ophelia Benson.</span></span></blockquote>
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At least this is accurate, unlike her pathetic and weak attempt at twisting my words against me. This type of behavior is not at all unusual for Ms. Benson. She demanded an apology from Discover Magazine and <a href="http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/intersection/2010/07/12/setting-the-record-straight-on-ophelia-benson/" target="_blank">also demanded to have other posters' comments deleted on their site</a>:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">"Lately, Benson has been <a href="http://www.butterfliesandwheels.org/2010/exposed/" style="color: red; text-decoration: none;">clamoring</a> to have her commenting status restored, based on the “Tom Johnson” flap. This doesn’t make any sense, as the <a href="http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/intersection/2009/07/27/some-more-words-to-the-new-atheist-blogosphere-on-unscientific-america/" style="color: red; text-decoration: none;">thread that led to her banning</a> happened long before that affair."</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">'So “bilbo” who repeatedly said here that I was lying in my questions to you two was not moderated, but I who repeatedly asked you two to do a better job of justifying your claims – I was banned. Do you think you should have second thoughts about that now, Sheril? Now that you know “bilbo” was William? A sock puppet? Who has made something of a career of saying I’m lying when I say something he dislikes? I think you should lift the ban on me, and I think you should apologize.'<span style="background-color: transparent;"> -</span><span style="background-color: transparent;"> Ophelia Benson"</span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Hmm. There are some comments let out of moderation – so I take it that means Mooney or Kirshenbaum has done some housekeeping? If so, that means M/K has <b>left the post saying I’m lying in place – ignoring my email message asking them to delete it. M/K has also blocked two posts of mine – saying I am not lying, and replying to the specific claim that TB made. In other words it’s a substantive comment – and they don’t see fit to allow me to make it, while they do see fit to allow people to say I’m lying.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">M/K – if this is how it is – well, that’s just over the line.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Ben – exactly. I too went over chapter 8 again – I went through the end notes and did a substantive reply to TB – pointing out that the citations are for the claim that science and religion are compatible, but not for the claim that overt atheism causes people to be hostile to science. My question was about the latter, not the former, so TB’s claim missed the point. Ho hum.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">A. McC. – Ordinarily, yes, of course they can reject posts if they want to. <b>But posts rebutting a false charge of lying? No. That’s immoral.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><b>Hmm. Yeah, it doesn't feel too good, does it Ophelia? But it's exactly what you did to me. </b></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #2c2b2b; line-height: 18px;">She actually helped me look less enraged...so...I should be grateful to her for deleting my comments! She was <i>just trying to help me.</i> She sees fit to allow people to say I'm lying and leaves those comments up, but Ophelia deleted comments where I defend myself against accusations of lying.</span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #2c2b2b; line-height: 18px;"><i><br /></i></span>No. It's only over the line when someone does it to Ophelia. Got it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Do you think <i>I</i> will get an apology from Ophelia? She should apologize to me, if she has any integrity and honesty. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I'm not holding my breath. She can completely twist my words, and moves the goalposts for swearing and when it's allowed. T</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">hen dismiss me completely. </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">I'm just a peon, foaming at the mouth with shouty fury, who gets enraged over very minor points. It's a fact... Benson has the magical ability to discern someone's tone and feelings over the internet. She knows when you are yelling, when you are shouting, and when you are typing in a ragey furor. It usually happens when you say something she doesn't like, or call her on her bullshit, but that's merely a coincidence.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Shockingly dishonest and hypocritical.<br /><br /><span style="background-color: #d5a6bd;">**And Ophelia's pearl-clutching at my use of the f-word? </span><a href="http://www.butterfliesandwheels.org/2010/exposed/#comment-54480" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: #d5a6bd; color: black;">She moves the goalpost again. Ha:</span></a></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;"><br />Twice! </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Man, deja vu. <i> </i>This <i>actually is</i><strong> relevant </strong>and<strong> very amusing. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Continue to shoot yourself in the foot and arbitrarily single out and attack, then ban, women who have supported you and your blog for years. Sounds like a great plan.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Fuck You Ophelia.</span><br />
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<br />theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-3507956712255122282014-06-11T17:30:00.000-07:002014-09-16T10:20:43.289-07:00James Arthur Ray - The Come-Back Kid<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Self-help guru and star of "The Secret" James Ray was released from prison in July, 2013. <span style="background-color: #cc0000;"> <span style="line-height: 20px;">He only served 18 mon</span><span style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 20px;">ths o</span><span style="line-height: 20px;">f a two-year sentence for </span>negligent homicide in the deaths of Kirby Brown, James Shore, and Liz Neuman.</span> </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: #e06666; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Jean Brown, sister of negligent homicide victim Kirby Brown, has written an open letter to Oprah Winfrey, asking her to finally break her silence on the man she helped launch to fame. The man whose negligence, greed and arrogance caused the deaths of three, possibly four human beings:</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The Brown family has created <a href="http://www.seeksafely.org/about-us/" target="_blank">SEEK Safely</a> in Kirby's honor, a nonprofit organization that helps educate consumers about the dangers of the unregulated, <span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 28px;">$11 billion self-help industry:</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-size: 16px; line-height: 28px;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 21px;">In response to our horrific loss, my family has created a non-profit organization, </span><a href="http://www.seeksafely.org/" sl-processed="1" style="-webkit-transition: all 0.18s ease-out; background-color: white; border: 0px currentColor; color: #0da4d3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; text-decoration: none; transition: 0.18s ease-out; vertical-align: baseline;" target="_blank" title="SEEK Safely">SEEK Safely</a><span style="background-color: white; color: #444444; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 21px;">, dedicated to protecting people who are looking to the self-help industry to improve their lives. We hope to educate consumers of self-help about how to empower and protect themselves, and work with the self-help industry to create standards of ethics and safety. -</span></blockquote>
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Had she lived, I know Kirby would have been speaking up about what happened. She would have ranted about the fact that at an event that cost nearly $10,000 and involved tough physical challenges, there were no safety procedures in place. She would have discussed the tactics of control and humiliation that took away her sense of self-preservation. She would have spoken up about the insanity of putting people in the desert for 2 days without food or water, then putting them in a boiling hot tent and bringing them to the edge of death, and then bullying them over that edge. She would have been outraged that a man she trusted, a man who presented himself as professional and caring, could be so callous, empty, and self-serving. Kirby was a force, and she would be <em style="border: 0px currentColor; font-family: inherit; font-weight: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">screaming</em> right now. --Jean Brown</blockquote>
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<br />theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-89583022340365979672014-06-10T20:36:00.002-07:002015-11-29T20:27:26.139-08:00The Hypocrisy of Ophelia Benson<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Atheist, Feminist Blogger Ophelia Benson of Butterflies and Wheels selectively deletes comments on her blog </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">where people try to defend themselves against personal attacks on their honesty, </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">and</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">to make it appear as if a commenter made an argument they never made. She leaves up the comments with false personal attacks, but deletes the rebuttals. She then uses double standards for herself and others regarding what is acceptable as far as one's tone and use of swear words.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">You would think, as someone who is frequently and deliberately misquoted, that she would have some empathy and not want to treat others the same way. No. She doesn't.</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">You could be a loyal supporter or a harsh critic, feminist or antifeminist, or anything in between...once you get on her bad side or say things she doesn't like, she has no qualms trashing and misrepresenting you. If you disagree with an important writer friend of hers, she will tar and feather you as rude, or as she labeled me personally, "shitty and vindictive." </span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><br /><span style="color: black;">What awful thing did I say that completely derailed her blog with my shitty vindictiveness? </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I didn't agree that </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">the word 'female' is "degrading, other-ing, and patronizing." </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Yes. I actually said that. And she didn't like the tone I used. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I expressed the opinion that the actual, technical term for people of my sex, derived from the Latin word for woman, is not dehumanizing, not "degrading and othering."</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I made no personal attacks on her friend, but I disagreed when she told a male commenter that female is a "dodgy" term and that he shouldn't use it. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I personally think being offended by the word is plain silly.</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> I suggested that maybe people who were complaining about being told that 'female is degrading' on Twitter had a point. God, and I said </span><i style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"><b>people </b></i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">and not men, because only evil woman-hating men would not agree "female" is an insult to women. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Ophelia accused me of using "verbal sleight of hand" to deliberately change the word <i>men</i> to<i> people...</i>because? I'm just sneaky like that. Shitty and vindictive. I am a woman, but it doesn't count that I and other women disagree, because there are men who are abusive jerks on Twitter. Therefore female<i> is</i> a slur, because...look at their reaction. Forget that these types of men are abusive pretty much to any woman who says anything about anything on Twitter. Let's twist that fact and use it to vilify women who disagree with Benson.</span><br />
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She outraged when people call her a rage blogger, but disagree with her and she will call y<i>ou</i> an enrage commenter<i>. </i>She took it upon herself to delete only specific comments I made where I clarified my position, that I think female is not a slur either as a noun or an adjective, and defended myself against accusations of lying. But left up others I made to make them look totally out of context, and as if I didn't disagree with the accusations of dishonesty. She didn't announce that my posts were so ugly and ragey and derailing that they would be deleted, which she would have had the courtesy to do for an actual troll or </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">even</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">an harasser. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">But not me, because Ophelia says I am a shitty, vindictive low-life, not worthy of any good faith.</span></span><br />
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There are plenty of words out there that are used to put down women, but by god let's create a new one, or vilify an existing and completely non-offensive term, so she can continue her hobby of being professionally offended.</span></span><br />
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And when I saw what she did and called her on it, she didn't reply, but later my comments mysteriously re-appeared with no warning. When I mentioned that she responds:</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I deleted your final comments simply because they were ugly. I think the only way that deletion “misrepresented” you is by making you seem less enraged over a minor issue than you in fact were.</span></blockquote>
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After telling me to "go away," she goes digging through ancient comments in an attempt to trash talk me where I can't defend myself. <span style="background-color: white;">She insinuates that I sort of but 'not exactly' sock-puppeted because I used to post under a couple different 'nyms years before FTB required you log in and stick to one. I </span><i>TOLD</i><span style="background-color: white;"> people that I did.</span><i> </i><span style="background-color: white;">(oops, all caps! and italics! good god, think of the children!). </span></span></span></span><span style="background-color: cyan;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I used the same email, which means I didn't </span><i style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">exactly</i><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> sockpuppet , but close enough for her. </span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">So not exactly the "gotcha!" as she portrays it. I didn't really comment that much when I first started reading her blog, so I didn't think it mattered. (Because no one has </span><u style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">ever</u><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> changed their 'nym on the FTB network. Like, ever). And </span><b style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">s<i>he doesn't clarify that once I've stuck to a 'nym, I've used it consistently</i></b><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">. I haven't been using different names in the same time period, but she lets people assume that I have. Pretty rotten, Ophelia. And she calls</span><i style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"> me</i><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> shitty and vindictive.</span></span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She openly makes personal attacks on my character. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">She says that it is a<i> fact</i> that I was "enraged", not pure speculation on her part. Which of course discredits anything I say, because emotions. </span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">She goes sifting through a years of m</span>y past comments trying to find something to discredit me, and can only find one which she believes (or pretends to believe) totally exposes me as someone worthy of contempt and dismissal. Or that it justified her personal attacks on me, <span style="background-color: white;">or something:</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I’m going back through theoreticalgrrrl’s previous comments, which were made under a few different names (but the same email address, so not exactly sock-puppeting) and I found one of amusing relevance:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">I used to belong to a Yahoo group and the moderator was completely anti-moderating in the name of free speech. It was a complete mess, mostly dominated by a paranoid guy who thought the <span style="background-color: white;">government was using his microwave to control his thoughts. No one could have a normal conversation or </span><span style="background-color: white;">debate about anything. It was draining and pointless. But no one could convince the moderator to do something about the trolls, he was so convinced it was some sacred duty to let people be free to spew whatever nonsense they wanted and constantly derail discussions.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="background-color: white; color: black;">The quote she found amusing and relevant? Ha. Yes, I totally dominated the conversation. </span><a href="http://blogs.discovermagazine.com/intersection/2010/07/12/setting-the-record-straight-on-ophelia-benson/" target="_blank"><span style="background-color: white; color: black;">The irony!</span></a><span style="background-color: white; color: black;"> I'm <i>just like</i> the guy who thinks the government microwaves his brain and derails every discussion and thread to the point where no one can have a normal conversation or debate about anything. </span></span><span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; text-align: justify;"> </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She insinuates that I'm a hypocrite because of my past comment complaining about a Yahoo group that had <u>zero</u> moderating (since I now complained about my disappearing comments, which is<i> only moderating)</i>. S</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">he's "amused"</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> at the "relevancy." </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Right Ophelia. </span></span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">She not only tone-trolls me for my opinion that "female" isn't an offensive word, she flat out compares me to a troll.</span><span style="background-color: white;"> </span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: black;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I have been posting at B&W for a while, you'd think that would earn me</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><i style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">some</i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">good faith? You'd be wrong. Totally meaningless. </span></span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">What other 'dirt' did she dig up to prove she's justified in treating me with contempt and ridicule and trivialization? None. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-weight: normal;">(Is bolding words a sign of rage, too?)</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">It was the accusations of twisting words and "verbal sleight of hand" that I was responding to, justifiably defending myself, but leave all that out. And mock that I said I have a history of posting in good faith, because I'm so forgettable and stupid she hadn't even noticed or cared. She kicks me to the curb without batting an eye. She should make a list next time so we all know which topics are so trivial <b>that she will have absolutely no problem completely trashing and alienating a long-time reader and supporter and fellow feminist over it.</b></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Why don't you just go right ahead and call me an hysterical, emotional female, Ophelia?...oops, I mean woman. We can't use that other word lest it offends the professionally offended.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">If it was a "minor point," why the selective deleting? How we use words to denigrate women isn't a minor point. Has she forgotten how many times she's been called the C- word, and how people keep telling her it's a minor, unimportant issue? When Ricky Gervais used that word, she wrote quite a few blog posts complaining about his dismissive attitude.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Expressing the opinion that if one uses 'female' as a noun they are degrading and othering women is something worth discussing and possibly disagreeing with. It was totally on-topic, since her friend Maureen was the person who brought it up. Yet, she could barely handle me disagreeing with Maureen and had to wipe my comments clean to protect her and her fragile readers' minds from my "ragey" comments. Well, not exactly clean....again, very selectively. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">And to top off her caricature of my opinion as just enraged "shouty fury," she throws in There Are More Important Things So Shut Up, <i>ala Dear Muslima.</i></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Then a gallant white pony steps in to scold me on behalf of Ophelia:</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">How does one yell on the internet? It's purely your own perception that someone else is "yelling." Someone can read this sentence and think I am yelling, while someone else will see it as...not yelling. </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Yeah, we covered that already. Ragey is your perception. I could easily call him "ragey" for the above quote. ("She does not have to put up with..."? Thanks Brony, you make it sound like she's Tina Turner standing up to Ike). </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><br /></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I said that to another commenter, not Ophelia, after that person used direct insults by calling me a liar and intellectually dishonest. And when I objected to those direct insults towards me, they shot back with "if the shoe fits..." </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">But I have no right to respond to that with a<a href="http://www.butterfliesandwheels.org/2010/exposed/#comment-54480" target="_blank"> fuck off or you</a>, because </span><b style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">FreeThought Bloggers and commenters are <i>so</i> Anti-F-Bombs. They never use bad words or argue, </b><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">the delicate creatures that they are. </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">I</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> was being <i><b>sarcastic</b></i><b>.</b> </span></span></span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="background-color: white;">A couple</span> words in all caps and a few exclamation points....the humanity! I crossed the line there, t</span></span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">here are </span><i style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">consequences</i><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> for that</span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">!</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">It was such a serious derail that it destroyed the whole thread and made Ophelia super sad and almost made me spontaneously combust in a haze of purrre rrrage. </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Interesting that Ophelia left up the comment someone left after mine about civil rights workers and anal sex. That's fine with her? She vilifies me because I showed that she selectively deletes comments to make others look bad, and she got called on it.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">June 8, 2014 at 1:11 pm <span class="timezone">(UTC -7)</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">“Many people, myself included, find its use as a noun when referring to women to be offensive and othering.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">So then, I wasn’t “twisting” your words. I was spot on, Mr.FancyPants.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">June 8, 2014 at 1:14 pm <span class="timezone">(UTC -7)</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">Terms like ‘male privilege’, is that dehumanizing, turning men into inferior beasts?</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">That phrases uses “male” as an adjective, so no, it’s not offensive. If you can’t understand this fundamental difference which is the basis of the entire debate, then I don’t know how else to try to enlighten you.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">But it doesn’t prove the original point that female is a slur.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">You don’t get to decide what other people find offensive.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">“Many people, myself included, find its use as a noun when referring to women to be offensive and othering.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">So then, I wasn’t “twisting” your words. I was spot on, Mr.FancyPants.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">June 8, 2014 at 1:24 pm <span class="timezone">(UTC -7)</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">Oh, fuck off Mr.FancyPants. It’s not a slur when used as an adjective or a noun.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">You don’t get to decide what words women should be offended by.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">But fine, be offended by words that accurately describe people, and translate from the Latin word , in noun form, for “woman.”</span><br />
<span style="color: black;">Knock yourselves out.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">“If the shoe fits…”</span><br />
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<span style="color: black;">Fine Mr.FancyPants:</span><br />
<span style="color: black;">‘Nowhere did I (or anyone else, as far as I can see) say that the word “female” is offensive or degrading in and of itself. Many people, myself included, find its use as a noun when referring to women to be offensive and othering.”</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">It’s not a fucking slur when used as a noun either. But keep trying to paint me as some horrible, dishonest person.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;">It’s totally fine with you Ophelia, when people are being rude to me by calling me dishonest, with zingers like, “if the shoe fits”. But disagreeing with Maureen makes me a horrible rude person. Fine, I’m gone, I won’t sully your blog with my evil, lying presence. You don’t even have to ban me. I’ll leave willingly and gladly.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">"These are my thoughts and Ophelia can feel free to say if I am right or not."</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Oh, goody for you. I didn't stop her from saying if I'm right or not, she just<b> </b>deleted comments without telling me or anyone else, to make it look like the conversation went in a way that it didn't.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;"><b><br /></b><span style="color: black;">And telling a female commenter she is "ragey" and in a "furor", why that's<b> not sexist and patronizing at all. Nope.</b> It's a common tactic, discrediting or dismissing a woman's opinion based on whether or not she said it in an appropriately soft ladylike tone.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She conveniently deleted the "fundamental difference which is the basis of the entire debate," that I was saying "female" is not even offensive when used as a noun. She deleted my rebuttal comments against being accused of dishonesty, but left up other comments.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">As if Ophelia doesn't react negatively to people pulling a Shut Up Because There Are More Important Issues. And tone trolling. And selective erasure.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">And <a href="http://www.butterfliesandwheels.org/2010/exposed/#comment-54480" target="_blank">she gets upset</a> and...in a "furor" of "shouty ragey rage"...or <b>whatever she calls it when it's other women and not her.</b>..<a href="http://freethoughtblogs.com/butterfliesandwheels/2014/06/why-do-they-think-they-are-above-being-questioned/#comments" target="_blank">repeatedly <i>demands</i> an apology on Twitter from an organization that once called her 'Ofie' instead of Ophelia. </a></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">And I'm "wildly abusive"?</span></span><br />
<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">She's a hypocrite.</span><br />
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<span style="color: black; font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">**Update: I actually took down this post for a while because I know Ophelia Benson has been attacked by anti-"SJW's" unfairly. I didn't want to give them 'ammo' in attacking her. Wow, that was stupid. She's an asshole, plain and simple. I will speak the truth, she deserves no special treatment since she has no problem abusing long-time, supportive women commenters and using ridicule and ganging-up tactics on other women, policing other women's speech. She's a smug, self-important and is the real "wildly abusive" asshole.</span><br />
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theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-80596744624143149472011-07-27T19:18:00.000-07:002012-09-11T17:48:53.569-07:00Rebecca Watson and Good IntentionsI feel like a total jerk. About a year ago I took the Skepchicks to task with a blog comment criticizing them for their yearly Skepchick calendar. I thought it was playing into sexism and thought, men don't take us seriously so why on Earth would you play into the idea of women as eye-candy?<br />
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Now that Rebecca Watson is at the center of a shitstorm for simply asking for a little space and common courtesy (like don't just walk up to a complete stranger in an enclosed space at 4am and ask them to come back to your hotel room in your <i>very first couple of sentences to them</i>, duh.) I cringe at my previous comment. I was aware of sexism and misogyny in the skeptical movement, but I see the problem is much, MUCH bigger than I imagined. She even got a few patronizing and insulting responses from none other than Richard Dawkins on the Pharyngula blog. <br />
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So I'd like to apologize to everyone at Skepchick and especially Rebecca. I thought my intentions were good, i.e., not giving men a chance to see women as purely eye-candy. But I was completely, <i>completely</i> in the wrong. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the calendar or women wearing what some would be considered sexy clothing (sometimes this could be anything less than a burka). Women are fully human and nothing diminshes that, not even when you pose for a calendar. Not that I ever thought that it did, I just worried about how some men would react. But it's not a woman's job to educate men that being human and being 'sexy' for a woman aren't mutually exclusive. That should be self-evident, right? I shouldn't have been worried about how any man would react. Intelligent men get it, the ones who don't aren't worth the time or energy to worry about. The fact that there are some people actually connecting the two now to discredit Rebecca makes me sick to my stomach. And even worse the fact that I said something slightly similar, even though I thought I was saying it in an enlightened way and wasn't trying to shame anyone at Skepchick, or sound like a sexist against other women. <br />
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<i>(Just a note: No, Steven Pinker is not a rape-apologist...he has the wrong ideas of the causes of rape, and I don't appreciate his labeling people who disagree with him as "delusional" and the hyperbolic language like "the madness of crowds". But obviously he isn't "pro-rape" and would like rape become a thing of the past. OK? Good.) </i><br />
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Well-respected evolutionary psychologist and author Steven Pinker says, <br />
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He thinks rape is motivated by the natural need for males to pass along their genes, an adaptive reproductive strategy, and that seeing it as a weapon of power is false and not helpful in attempting to stamp it out. <br />
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I think that if the motivation is sex, the fact that a man is ignoring a woman's privacy and bodily integrity by forcing himself on her while she is telling him to stop is *always* an expression of power and contempt. It's a sense of entitlement to a woman's body regardless of what she wants. To be able to do this is to have complete contempt for your victim, to be completely oblivious to their cries for mercy, begging you to stop, ignoring their tears and screams. <br />
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To be able to ignore this makes you a monster.<br />
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But apparently it's sheer "madness" to think a rapist is malicious in his intent. And preposterous! <i>And</i> utterly delusional! That Pinker uses such strong language to disparage women who point this out is just bizarre. And where is this "mountain of evidence" that proves otherwise? Assertions aren't evidence. Women, especially those uppity ones he often disparages ("gender" feminists)have no authority to talk about rape. Too emotional I guess. <br />
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But what <i>is</i> the typical excuse or justification used for rape? It's rarely 'I was just really desperate for sex, sorry.' It's 'she was asking for it,' 'she's a whore' or 'slut', she 'deserved it' or she was wearing the wrong clothes or was out where she shouldn't have been.<br />
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<i>That's</i> about punishing women for not obeying the rules of a male-dominated society and that <i>is definitely about power</i>. And to a victim, rape is definitely not 'just sex,' it's violence and abuse. And that violence includes ignoring a women's humanity and right to bodily integrity. And it does make me feel threatened whenever I see a woman put through hell when she's brave enough to try to prosecute her attacker and she's dragged through the mud and told rape was just punishment for her disobedient 'sluttiness.' <br />
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So yes, it does terrorize ALL women, and very effectively.<br />
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The fact that the statistics of women and girls who are raped are high, 1 in 4, is seen by people like Pinker as proof that rape is a natural thing. But he doesn't explain the high rate of male-on-male rape, which is thought to be one in six boys/men. How is that about passing on genes?<br />
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We all have the instinct/drive to eat, we need to eat for survival. That wouldn't justify someone walking up to strangers in a restaurant and grabbing the food off their plates, would it? (I know, I hate to compare women with objects or food, but I don't know what else could get through to someone making excuses for rape other than comparing rape to stealing). <br />
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For a great rebuttal of this idea and <b>the bad science </b>behind it I recommend biologist Jerry Coyne and Andrew Berry's "Rape As An Adaptation?"<br />
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</a>And Jerry Coyne's article in The New Republic "Of Vice and Men: The Fairy Tales of Evolutionary Psychology":<br />
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theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-86409956957985864112011-05-23T01:56:00.000-07:002012-09-11T17:51:13.902-07:00Another reason to love Neil deGrasse TysonNeil deGrasse Tyson is one of those people you wish you had for a teacher when you were a kid. That amazing teacher that made any subject exciting and fascinating, even if initially you thought the class would be boring or tedious. Neil is an astrophysicist and hosts the educational science television show NOVA scienceNOW on PBS. <br />
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He is also infamous for upsetting a lot of kids (and adults) by declaring Pluto isn't a planet anymore:<br />
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He got quite a bit of hate mail after that.<br />
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At the Center for Inquiry conference, “Secular Society and its Enemies” a talk featuring Richard Dawkins, Neil deGrasse Tyson, Ann Druyan and Victor Stenger, one of the last questions was from a male audience member, “A Larry Summers question. What’s up with chicks in science?” <br />
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For those who don't know, Larry Summers, the president of Harvard University, claimed that the reason for the low number of women in the fields of science and math was due to our biology and not discrimination, the lack of role models and the open hostility women face when trying to break into male-dominated fields. This view is heartily endorsed by evo-psychologist and author Steven Pinker, who believes IQ tests prove women's inferiority and that <em>reality</em> is sexist so feminists should basically just shut up. <br />
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Neil deGrasse Tyson answered the "Larry Summers question", saying: <br />
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<blockquote>“I’ve never been female, but I have been black my whole life so let me perhaps offer some insight from that perspective because there are many similar social issues related to access to equal opportunity that we find in the black community as well as the community of women in a white male dominated society…<br />
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"When I look throughout my life…I got to see how the world reacted to my ambitions. All I can say is the fact that i wanted to be a scientist and astrophysicistist was, hands down, the path of most resistance through the forces of society. Anytime I expressed this interest teachers would say ‘don’t you want to be an athelete?’… <br />
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"I wanted to become something outside of the paradigms of expectations of the people in power…Fortunately my depth of interest in the universe was so deep and so fueled and rich that every one of these curveballs that I was thrown and fences built in front of me and hills I had to climb, I just reached for more fuel and I kept going. Now here I am, one of the most visible scientists in the land and I want to look behind me and say ‘where are the others who might have been this?’ and they are not there. And I wonder what is the blood on the tracks that I happened to survive that others did not, simply because of the forces of society that prevented me at EVERY turn, at EVERY turn…” <br />
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“So my life experience tells me that when you don’t find blacks in the sciences, when you don’t find women in the sciences, I know that these forces are real, and I had to survive them in order to get where I am today. So before we start talking about genetic differences, we got to come up with a system where there’s equal opportunities, then we can have that conversation.” </blockquote><br />
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My best friend A.C. killed her self three years ago this month. She had an an emotionally and physically abusive mom and dad, and she was kidnapped and molested by a neighbor when she was eight. When she confided about the molestation to her mother, her mother laughed at her and even said it was her fault for being stupid enough to trust the neighbor. It was such a betrayal that she said it was almost as bad as actually being molested. If you can't trust your own mother for protection and love, what chance does a kid have to ever feel safe in the world?<br />
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This is for her and all other girls and women, boys and men, who have been abused and not believed, or worse, told it was their fault:<br />
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<span style="background-color: #fff2cc;">This is to mother you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />To comfort you and get you through<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Through when your nights are lonely<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Through when your dreams are only blue<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />This is to mother you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />This is to be with you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />To hold you and to kiss you too<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />For when you need me I will do<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />What your own mother didn't do<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Which is to mother you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />All the pain that you have known<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />All the violence in your soul<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />All the wrong things they have done<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />I will take from you when I come<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />All mistakes made in distress<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />All your unhappiness<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />I will take away with my kiss, yes<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />I will give you tenderness<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />For child I am so glad I've found you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Although my arms have always been around you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Sweet bird although you did not see me<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />I saw you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />And I'm here to mother you<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />To comfort you and get you through<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Through when your nights are lonely<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Through when your dreams are only blue<br style="border: 0px none; font-size: 1em; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />This is to mother you</span></div>
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theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6897723691965947789.post-11037940219320348352010-08-05T15:24:00.000-07:002014-04-27T20:49:13.650-07:00Human<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinPLjbMzYSL85__YHAWqwgJxvQotn64kIVPVMAAAmQ80TmrASq1hSmh8Ce0bCc5PwecTVZEybdKERO003A5uAcrKv5ua8zO2ql2p3czOSbyDzXYyKk1wSgHsy4urg8Uu0TQ_6Y8HXaOhg/s1600/Zooey-zooey-deschanel-10456335-100-100.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 100px; height: 100px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEinPLjbMzYSL85__YHAWqwgJxvQotn64kIVPVMAAAmQ80TmrASq1hSmh8Ce0bCc5PwecTVZEybdKERO003A5uAcrKv5ua8zO2ql2p3czOSbyDzXYyKk1wSgHsy4urg8Uu0TQ_6Y8HXaOhg/s320/Zooey-zooey-deschanel-10456335-100-100.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5502058976315125746" /></a><br />
What's in a word? <br />
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What is a woman? I could never relate to that label, as a child or even now as an adult. Woman means so many things, so many things that have <em>nothing</em> to do with being a human being with female body parts. So yes, to me it <em>is</em> just a label. Women are either symbols of specific "qualities", good or bad, or mere objects created for the sole purpose of male entertainment. <br />
How on earth could I relate to that? Even though I consider myself a feminist, it always came more from being someone who always stood up for the underdog than actually relating to my own gender. I never really connected to that word. I've always felt like an alien observing the humans (a psychic once told me that I was reincarnated from another dimension and that my purpose here was to "teach the humans", ha!)<br />
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Because in reality there is no such thing as a woman. The way society defines the word, I have never met a woman in my life.<br />
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There was that time, that wonderful but brief time, when you were a child and you were whole. You were considered an individual, a precious individual by the world. You had so much potential, the world was yours to explore. You hadn't yet developed that quality that robs you of your humanity...Womanhood.theoreticalgrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01338496588249920286noreply@blogger.com1